I am a woman who happens to think that our society OUGHT to be MORE patriarchal. Feminism seems to have had good intentions, but the road to hell is paved with good intentions. I am married with 4 children, and I stay at home. I worked as a nurse for 7 years, and I was thrilled when our financial situation afforded me to stay home. I take care of the house, delegating chores to the children, cars, put out the trash, and mow the lawn. Yes, it is hard work, and I do feel under- appreciated at times, but are we women so self-absorbed so as to think that men never feel that way? My husband willingly works two jobs, and still finds time to play hide-and-seek with the kids running through the house once a week or so. We have family night on Friday night, and Sunday morning is reserved for church. We are not the Brady Bunch, but we do take our marriage and parenting seriously. I believe that there is something in a man that desires to be a provider, protector, and leader. And there is nothing wrong with that. Women have done both sexes a tremendous disservice by assuming a role they are not designed to fulfill. I do not mean to say that a woman cannot do a man's job, or vice-versa. I do mean to say that the sexes are inherently different. We are different in every way imaginable. And it is our differences, when combined into teamwork, that make society function well. Feminism has created a generation of men that no longer feel "needed". They have no vision, and "where there is no vision, the people perish." Feminism has resulted in both parents not parenting. I do not mean to sound harsh. I realize that some people, like my own mother, who was a single parent, have extinuating circumstances. However, coming home from work, when one is already spent, and trying to sqeeze in some "quality time" parenting for a few hours before bedtime while also doing laundry, cooking dinner, preparing tomorrows lunches, etc really isn't acceptable to us, is it? It shouldn't be. We can't possibly expect to have a foundational and influential relationship with our children or spouse under these circumstances. These are the circumstances that feminism has helped to create. Let me ask you, women, has it been worth it? I say, no, a most emphatic no! I have no daughters, but If I did, I would do my best to influence her in the opposite direction of feminism. I do have 4 sons, and I will do my best, with the help of God and my husband, to raise them to be great patriarchs. The pendulum has swung too far in the opposite direction. As you can see, your web site struck a cord with me. I don't know what your spiritual beliefs are, but you might be interested in a magazine called "Patriarch". Happy reading!

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I will let your comment stand as a legitimate personal account that presents a dose of reality. I actually don't object to women today having a career if they can achieve that, and not all can. It provides what is often a good satisfying job that pays well and allows women to participate in important decision-making activities or in areas that are creative. However one significant problem remains the fact that many of these young women are not fully aware of the sacrifices that come with these ambitions and what the future has in store for them. I see women who have achieved "equality" complain of 60 hour working weeks inthe corporate sector as lawyers and accountants. They ask themselves how they could possibly fit in child rearing. Almost insidiously some of these corporations are quite keen for these women not to have children at all, or to ensure that they can have a baby this week, offlaod it onto the mother or child care centre, and spend another 10 years earning mega-bucks, while never having even a free weekend. There may be a way forward without resorting to a return to former times. I think that you should think seriously about teaching your daughters to be repelled by the new regime. "Traditional" lifestyles may become very difficult to sustain in the coming decades and in addition they may not necessarily provide fulfilment. The best thing is if children are brought up with a good understanding of their options and most importantly, without delusions as to the hardships and sacrifices that they may face. There is good and bad in all choices and there is scope still to take the best out of the current sexual regime.

For young women with university level education (college) there will usually be a period spent in a career, until she finds an opportunity to marry. Whether she then remains a housewife due to collective family choice or whether she decides to again work part-time or full time are decisions that might be made without duress. However encouraging greater flexibility to ensure greater contact also by the father seems to me also something to work towards.